I am the parent of the child, who is
now 7 years old, and who was diagnosed
with ADHD more than 3 years ago. He is in
second grade now in special education
program. Since he started going to school
the teachers recommended me to give him
medication. "He is so bright, he has
great potential, he could be in the main
stream," - they were reasoning. But
I wanted to develop Anton's inner
strength and qualities first, without any
medical intervention. I beleived in him.
However, some problems developed. My
child's personality seemed to begin to
change rapidly. He was always happy and
cheerful when he was 3 years old, but by
7 he was often anxious, easily
frustrated, he was blaming others all the
time, and began to hurt people when in
anger. I felt puzzled. I knew school was
a pressure for him. He usually was
overtired after school, with headaches
every other day. Was this pressure so
strong that it changed his personality or
was the reason somewhere else? Will the
medication be the remedy? For me, with
this heavy questions in my head, the book
of Dr. Gupta arrived at the right moment.
It gave me the panoramic view of the
disorder that my child has, the view with
deep insight which I was longing for. In
section 1, titled "The Essence of
ADD", I found especially important
for me chapter 1 "Is ADD Real or a
Figment of the Imagination?",
chapter 2 "Why Is It Difficult to
Accept ADD As a Disease?", chapter
10 "Is ADD Only a Question of
Difficult Temperament?", and chapter
12 "Can ADD Occur with Other
Disorders?". Part of chapter 12
called "Complications of ADD"
(pp.59, 60) is worth putting on the wall,
so that we do not forget that life for
our chidlren with ADD is not as easy as
our own lives. Section 2 of the book,
called "Management of ADD", is
like the rescue tool. Do you want to be
rescued? - Here is the instruction. And
this is the instruction which is written
with scientific competence, love towards
kids and parents, and the beleif that we
can be happy inspite of the disorder and
problems associated with it. This chapter
explores all possible ways of dealing
with ADHD. I especially liked chapters
18, 19, 24, 25, "How Does One Cope
with ADD?", "How Does One Care
For a Child with ADD?", "Do
Children Grow ADD?", and "Is
Everything Lost in ADD?"
respectively. Chapter 19 should be read
by every parent of a child with ADD.
Chapter 18 gives the vitally important
information about how parents should
communicate with their kid, so that our
ideas and words would support, encourage,
and comfort our kids. It also provides
with adresses and phone numbers of three
national organizations serving
individuals with ADD (p.85). Dr. Gupta
through his book helped me to understand
what I really needed to understand: what
in my child's personality is the result
of the disorder, what I have to be
careful about, how I can improve my
attitude towards my child, and what his
future can be. I feel more self-confident
now in my everyday life and I look with
confidence into the future. I am sure a
lot of parents will appreciate this
wonderful book.
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